Well Tyler and I needed a little vaca, so in celebration of our one year anniversary, we went to a cabin in Sundance for the weekend. It was honestly everything I needed. We really didn’t do anything which is why there aren’t many pics but I had the time of my life watching movies and playing scrabble while eating delicious pineapple.

Sometimes life gets so crazy you don’t even realize it and then you have a breakdown. It happens to me every couple of months because I can’t say “No”. Trying to balance my life is probably the hardest thing for me lately but I am really trying. Since my last post on what I have learned in our first year of marriage, I have been doing lots better and my sleep deprivation is slowly disappearing. Life is good and so is the SUMMER!!!! I am going to enjoy these last few months of summer and chill….the best I can.

MUSIC INSPIRATION: Ed Sheeran ~ I See Fire

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What I have learned in my first year of marriage… well quite a lot actually. I was thinking how fast it went by and how much of a good thing that was to feel that way. In every marriage there will always be ups and downs and the things I have learned are what have helped me turn every down into an up.

1. Let it go. In the case of Frozen and the way too often quoted movie, the main lyrics “let it go” stand true. Letting the little things go like leaving doors and drawers open, and poking at food with his hands are such small things, just let it go. There are way more important things to nag your spouse about so let the little things go.

2. Have fun. Tyler and I work way too much and it really wares on our relationship as far as patience and quality time. We have learned that giving up some work time helps us enjoy each other and our life together. We went out and bought bikes so we would make time to have fun and ride around town. Not only has it helped us have happy time together, we have been able to get to know the neighbors and be more social in our community.

3. Balance. Along with the working too much, we have realized that our physical health as far as sleeping, eating and working out is hard to do. Making that a priority helps with our patience and attraction to each other as well as feeling good about ourselves. When I am happy he is happy. wink.

4. Give in a little. When it comes to style, we are usually on the same page but sometime we are polar opposites. At first I had a huge problem with this and our first fight was over home decor haha (which was so stupid). As I realized none of these things really mattered because we didn’t have a house that we were building nor did we have the money to build Versailles (which is what I wanted), I just agreed to disagree. No need to fight over the future when it hasn’t happened yet. Being willing to give in no matter who is right, will help your marriage be more open. Over the last year our style has almost perfectly aligned and I am more open to his suggestions. whew.

5. Be aware. I am oblivious, utterly oblivious to some things. Tyler is very sensitive to other peoples needs and sometimes when he needs me most I am living in Candy Land (if you know what I mean). He is always the first to notice if someone needs help or if I am down or upset. I am learning that the more I focus on his feelings the happier I am. The more I understand him and the better wife I feel like I am.

6. Be Clean. The biggest thing that can affect our day is if the house is clean. If I come home from a hard day of work and see crap everywhere, I am instantly impatient with whatever is going on. We have tried our best to stay clean so we can cook dinner and enjoy the rest of our night together.

7. Have faith. It will all work out in the end. It really will, no matter what the circumstance is with your marriage or your trial, it will always work out for the best in the end. Have faith in the future and in each other and their potential. Know that they can do it and be supportive of success.

8. It’s both of our responsibility. Yes gender roles are still in play in 2014 but for the most part things are very equal and that means we both cook dinner, do laundry and go grocery shopping. Since we both work full-time we share the home responsibilities. I am so grateful this has never been an issue because Tyler’s parents taught him well! I didn’t expect it and boy am I grateful he just does it.

9. Let them make the decision. Letting my husband make the decision whether it is big or small is a great thing in our marriage. Sometimes we tend to try and control our spouses decisions and sometimes we don’t even notice it. Although they ask your opinion, it is important that they know the final decision is theirs.

10. Say “I love you”. There was a time in my life where I never said those words to anyone, not even my family. Once I realized that any day could be the last, I wanted people to know how much I love them. I now say it a lot but never too much of course, wink. Saying “I love you” to your spouse is special and lets them know that no matter what, you are with them till the end. I love my husband so much and I am eternally grateful for him and the marriage he has given us. I hope this helps a little. Good luck newlyweds!

photography by Alixann Loosle

MUSIC INSPIRATION: Fairytale ~ Milky Chance

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